There’s a picture of gorgeous plus-sized model Ashley
Benson(she of the Sports Illustrated cover), wearing a very short dress and
riding a bike. She’s a beautiful women
but (and?) her upper legs are covered with cellulite. Many applauded her for
being comfortable looking like a “normal” woman and felt she looked great.
I am sad to say my first thought was, “why doesn’t she cover
that ugly cellulite?” And sort of
nastily, I guess, “boy, those Sports Illustrated pictures must have been really retouched”, (note the italics!)
Also, I thought she looked too chunky to be wearing those
bikinis, which I can hardly believe I’m confesssing. I don’t care if she wears
them, actually, I just don’t think she looks very good.
Holy crap – would you listen to me!!! Where does my narrow,
prejudiced fattist thinking come from?
Yikes.
I understand. You grew up with those messages and they were drilled into your mind. I think the logical part of you knows that weight/size doesn't determine someone's worth, but there's a lot of messed up messages in your mind as well just based on how you grew up and how society is... I say just keep questioning it and trying to reject those automatic negative thoughts.
ReplyDeleteErin; Thank you for writing. I agree that the messages get stuck. I wouldn't say that i equate someone's weight with her worth, but perhaps i do in that i my reaction is - heavier bodies looks better more covered; that to wear a bikini someone should have a flat stomache; that cellulite isn't attractive, etc... It is prejudice. Hmm, much to think about. Thanks again for writing!
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