tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post2908483566796594353..comments2023-08-28T02:27:24.945-07:00Comments on I HATE TO WEIGHT... AND MORE: my weight -- continuedI Hate to Weighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-60528023381426404332009-08-02T16:39:20.163-07:002009-08-02T16:39:20.163-07:00tina; you're right, especially as we know that...tina; you're right, especially as we know that we can be a "fine" weight but very unhealthy, ie., when i was bulimic. and i know heavier people who exercise and eat good food and have great health. why can't health be measured by -- health?<br /><br />kim; i do believe we'll get there. i'm always hopeful. it is a lot of work though. it's time for me to do new work. i'm mustering the energy.<br /><br />christie; you make great points. there's a lot i'd rather not look at or don't know how to look at yet. and my belief systems are hard to shift. but i want to do the work. it's hard living thru a scale!<br /><br />Harriet: your comments inspire me. Would you consider making one day this week scale-free? i think i'd have an easier time with a buddy. let me know. <br /><br />linda: thank you. i wrote my next blog before reading comments. one scale-free day seems like a good start. i sure hope there's more to me!!!! i think a part of me's afraid there isn't. <br /><br />karen; thank you. when my therapist pressed me to name some good qualities, i did say that i'm empathetic -- i've sure gone thru enough to understand what others feel. and i try not to judge. we are all so very human. your support always helps me. you are a great friend.I Hate to Weighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-17200847976949425052009-08-01T05:28:45.141-07:002009-08-01T05:28:45.141-07:00I don't think it sounds like you are having a ...I don't think it sounds like you are having a meltdown at all, I think you are just really trying to get a handle on this thing, and stop the self destructive behaviors that make you unhappy, once and for all. That's good and healthy. <br /><br />I'm sure if you sit and think about it when you AREN'T under any pressure, you will find lots of things that better define you than those infernal numbers. <br /><br />Because we can see lots of things, and we haven't even met you. <br /><br />Your compassion, for one... You are a wonderful friend. <br /><br />Start with that. ;)Karen ^..^https://www.blogger.com/profile/05197114237324824217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-84005940598524394872009-07-31T19:50:36.484-07:002009-07-31T19:50:36.484-07:00Scale Free Day. Once you let the odd day happen in...Scale Free Day. Once you let the odd day happen in it will get easier. Just fill your life with more useful things. Books, walks, bike rides, morning newspaper and your boyfriend. I sense, from your thoughtful and questioning posts, there is loads more to you than a number. Good luck!lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392205573326695683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-66030538363304275372009-07-31T14:37:30.544-07:002009-07-31T14:37:30.544-07:00Good luck tomorrow! I know you can do it. Maybe ...Good luck tomorrow! I know you can do it. Maybe if you do it, I can too. Please report back on your blog and let us know how it goes.Harriethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151061142781327531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-39208714011769406572009-07-31T05:31:54.389-07:002009-07-31T05:31:54.389-07:00I too had to come to grips with who I was without ...I too had to come to grips with who I was without that number, dieting and binging to define who I am. It took A LOT of personal therapy, group therapy, an RD, many tears, heartache, binging, blogging, crying, writing, yoga, art but now, I know who I am and who I want to be. I still struggle eating mindfully all of the time but now, I am fully aware that focusing on the number, the latest diet, calories, binging, obsessive exercise, etc are all tactics of avoiding my feelings. If I am busy focusing on those things, I don't have time or energy to focus of the real me and my real problems. Getting to the root of the problem takes dedication, hard work and focus and in reality, the work of it is even harder than living with disordered eating. But in the end, there is peace and happiness. Sure, life is still hard but at least it's living it instead of avoiding it.Christie @ Quit Your Diethttp://www.quityourdiet.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-89947715898746584662009-07-30T22:09:03.630-07:002009-07-30T22:09:03.630-07:00I think your therapist has it right -- when you ca...I think your therapist has it right -- when you can latch onto a sense of self outside of weight, the number will lose most of its meaning (if not all of its meaning). You ask why it's so hard to eat mindfully... Well, given our history of body and food struggles, the better question is, "How the hell do people eat mindfully?" I guess what I'm saying is don't be too hard on yourself. It's hard because it's not familiar and establishing new, uncomfortable habits takes a long freaking time. You'll get there. Man, I hate that phrase -- you'll get there -- but it's pretty true. Or, at least, that's what I'm counting on ;)Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12524913753671188764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-26557305957626266552009-07-30T18:02:00.961-07:002009-07-30T18:02:00.961-07:00Good luck tomorrow! In reality, weight is very arb...Good luck tomorrow! In reality, weight is very arbitrary. Never (or at least very rarely) does anyone ever flat-out ask me what my weight is. But I obsess over it all the same. It would be nice to live in a world where health was measured in how well one is functioning rather than a number on a piece of metal.Just Eat It!https://www.blogger.com/profile/18063645003673364407noreply@blogger.com