tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post6215578011556756616..comments2023-08-28T02:27:24.945-07:00Comments on I HATE TO WEIGHT... AND MORE: Accepting Weight GainI Hate to Weighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-11049501139072978452011-04-10T18:53:43.522-07:002011-04-10T18:53:43.522-07:00bananas: thank you. it amazes me. i don't eve...bananas: thank you. it amazes me. i don't even know exactly what's going on. i guess some of the AA work i've been doing has changed me as a whole. but i also think that for the first time i'm paying attention and listening. the thing is -- i do look fine, if voluptuous. AND my guy friend seems perfectly content. life is good. before, i would have found some way to make something into a problem. but for right now, today, Sunday, i don't have a problem. wow<br /><br />Harriet; thank you so much. for all my years of extreme anger and misery and depression, it's pretty cool to have someone think i have a good attitude. <br /><br />i would never, ever have imagined that i could get to this place. i'll think about my weight for a moment and then let it pass. it's, strangely, just not very imporant. hmmm. let's see if this lasts.I Hate to Weighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-91756981866283694482011-04-10T16:58:07.283-07:002011-04-10T16:58:07.283-07:00I think its fantastic! I love your attitude.I think its fantastic! I love your attitude.Harriethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151061142781327531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-81789241737828935012011-04-10T15:24:34.750-07:002011-04-10T15:24:34.750-07:00That is just freaking awesome! :)That is just freaking awesome! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-9987045759223601292011-04-10T13:22:00.535-07:002011-04-10T13:22:00.535-07:00Kris; i've never thought that i was lucky to b...Kris; i've never thought that i was lucky to be curvy -- i always wanted a boyish figure, BUT i am okay with it now. it's the body i've got and it's the one i need to feed and respect<br /><br />re; work. i do read, sometimes industry stuff. the lectures are a really good idea. thanks!<br /><br />Louise: Thank you for writing and thank you for letting me know that you're dealing with something similar. it's nice to know i'm not alone. May we both continue on our healthy paths!<br /><br />Sia Jane; well said. it IS amazingly liberating to just not really care. i just bought a pair of jeans ($14.99 at Marshall's!) that are the next size up. but they're comfortable, and that goes a long way. and yes, i am a woman. i think some of being a womanly weight is accepting that i am a grown-up and all that entails. scarey, but good stuff. thank youI Hate to Weighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-37604144798283990412011-04-09T16:27:00.351-07:002011-04-09T16:27:00.351-07:00Weight gain is HARD and yet, as you acknowledge so...Weight gain is HARD and yet, as you acknowledge so amazingly liberating, especially when it means being a woman and a proud one at that xxxxSia Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08120049607697882002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-15230480849517951502011-04-09T11:13:35.587-07:002011-04-09T11:13:35.587-07:00Im currently going through a similar phase in my r...Im currently going through a similar phase in my recovery, as my old clothes are getting tighter and it can make me feel a bit anxious. But I am learning to accept my new body and that it is healthier for me, and that having some curves makes me attractive. <br />Staying off the scales is definitely a good move! I hope you continue on your healthy path!Louisehttp://serenity-onedayatatime.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-17300614910709612172011-04-08T13:34:48.096-07:002011-04-08T13:34:48.096-07:00I'm so happy that you've found acceptance ...I'm so happy that you've found acceptance and that you are happy with your size. That's something I constantly struggle with. I am naturally thin, but not in a good way -- there are zero curves and, although I'm not terribly unhappy with my size, I wish I could at least be this size and have somewhat of a curvy shape. I think my problem when I gained weight was expecting to get curves and, instead, just getting bigger but retaining the lack of curvy-ness. Sooo, you are very lucky :)<br /><br />Also, I'm just catching up on posts and read your previous one about your job -- do you have internet connection?? When I used to get bored in the lab while waiting for an experiment to progress to the point where I could collect data I used to look for lectures online -- more specifically lectures from ivy-league schools in random topics. That way if anyone sees you not working: A.) You have a good reason and B.) You're learning -- and most people see that as good. There were some really interesting lectures from law school people-- the one I remember best was about answering police officers' questions (it basically said to NEVER do that and explained why). If you don't have internet, maybe they wouldn't mind you reading or something like that??<br /><br />Take care & have a good weekend!!krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02970254025864615280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-23519965510956401332011-04-08T09:11:21.711-07:002011-04-08T09:11:21.711-07:00thank you everyone for all your support as i get u...thank you everyone for all your support as i get used to this new bod of mine. i've got some serious voluptuousity (i just made that up) going on.<br /><br />i can still get nervous when i notice that i'm eating more and when the next pair of pants doesn't fit BUT who really cares? <br /><br />to paraphrase Linda Lou, when you're laughing your ass off, who notices its size?<br /><br />freedom.I Hate to Weighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-8837163007423408342011-04-08T06:37:58.674-07:002011-04-08T06:37:58.674-07:00This is awesome! Really glad that you've come ...This is awesome! Really glad that you've come to accept having a "real" body and recognize how much more attractive, happier, and healthier that is. Every time I gave myself enough time to adjust to a higher weight, I ended up liking my body way more than I had at a lower one. You definitely deserve to enjoy each day without beating yourself up over numbers and food, and it's really inspiring to hear that you've made progress with that.<br /><br /> I saw on your last post that you're worried about your job situation, just wanted to send some support your way, decisions like that can be tough. I'm sure it will work out and you'll make a good choice, try to make sure to find ways to relax and take care of yourself while you're in the process of working it out. <3Cammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18181004571609998125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-63589329919102321302011-04-07T18:42:39.164-07:002011-04-07T18:42:39.164-07:00P.S. I am almost 25 pounds heavier than I was last...P.S. I am almost 25 pounds heavier than I was last year when I was what I call "scary-skinny" and I am glad. I am naturally smaller, but now I look like a woman with some curves and I am proud of them. But it does feel strange at times, especially when I compare to this time last year - but then I was heading to PHP this time last year, so that should say something.Angela Elain Gambrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08199876962091491591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-86892808055221544752011-04-07T18:40:08.042-07:002011-04-07T18:40:08.042-07:00The fact that you are happier and healthier is wha...The fact that you are happier and healthier is what is most important. Your weight will find its natural place and you will be fine. You are a wonderful and beautiful woman just the way you are!!!<br /><br />AngelaAngela Elain Gambrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08199876962091491591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-32718176666452859022011-04-07T14:08:26.973-07:002011-04-07T14:08:26.973-07:00I wrote this in my blog a while ago, and I'll ...I wrote this in my blog a while ago, and I'll repeat it here: When your laughing your ass off with people you love, no one cares how big it is. Not even you.<br /><br />Have fun, live with joy, and laugh your ass off, my friend!Vegas Linda Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17653067016683159930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-40411320613238882962011-04-07T10:54:38.693-07:002011-04-07T10:54:38.693-07:00I LOVE how you began this post. I'm mostly Pe...I LOVE how you began this post. I'm mostly Persian, and Persian women have wide hips, and more voluptuous butts and thighs. <br /><br />It has taken me over a decade to accept this fact.<br /><br />But isn't it freeing when you do? You almost feel more 'connected' with those who came before you and had a similar body. <br /><br />I'm so happy to see that you are truly accepting and going with the flow of weight gain. For me, even gaining 5 measley pounds took over a year to accept. <br /><br />Great job. =)Yasihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01604585690106059181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-87378226310328963412011-04-07T10:34:43.688-07:002011-04-07T10:34:43.688-07:00Angela; you know what -- it's really not that ...Angela; you know what -- it's really not that scarey. it's kind of, well, me. this IS my body. acceptance is kind of cool. it takes off so much pain and worry and obsession. i can be vaguely annoyed sometimes, but i'm not obsessed at all. i can move on. that's a nice feelingI Hate to Weighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-2790950212387424132011-04-07T10:19:24.881-07:002011-04-07T10:19:24.881-07:00All of that sounds so scary, and yet you are comin...All of that sounds so scary, and yet you are coming to a place of acceptance, and that is wonderful. You are listening to your body, and giving yourself positive affirmations. You have come so far! Way to go:)Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05748840293468845389noreply@blogger.com