tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post2326532756479605312..comments2023-08-28T02:27:24.945-07:00Comments on I HATE TO WEIGHT... AND MORE: What's the Right AmountI Hate to Weighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-39632549981357561872009-06-05T11:12:07.022-07:002009-06-05T11:12:07.022-07:00thanks, abi! you are right -- it's like workin...thanks, abi! you are right -- it's like working so hard for something that other people do kind of naturally. but i've learned along the way, and i'm far more compassionate and i'm nicer and much more easygoing. but it IS HARD WORK!I Hate to Weighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-83334385983712300232009-06-05T09:08:43.654-07:002009-06-05T09:08:43.654-07:00Thank you :) .... healthy, clean, sober AND coping...Thank you :) .... healthy, clean, sober AND coping... that's some serious multi-tasking right there!..Sometimes it's easy to think 'well for god's sake, lots of other people manage it' but no... no they don't really. It's Hard Work. Well done xxxAbihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07842694982070697810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-37167887595863221722009-06-03T19:36:00.216-07:002009-06-03T19:36:00.216-07:00Sarah: thank you. i am well. it's just been b...Sarah: thank you. i am well. it's just been busy lately. i've missed blogging! hope you are well.I Hate to Weighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-67505494143934294312009-06-02T19:01:38.458-07:002009-06-02T19:01:38.458-07:00Miss your posts Mel, hope you are well!!
<3Miss your posts Mel, hope you are well!!<br /><br /><3Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17034980786297421545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-71829404548434144082009-06-02T07:26:34.013-07:002009-06-02T07:26:34.013-07:00Karen: Thank you!. communication seems to be key t...Karen: Thank you!. communication seems to be key to a lot of things. I need to get better at it. if i'm not communicating well, i still feel i need somewhere to run and hide. i'm learning a lot!<br /><br />Amelia: that does sound like a good plan. thanks. i do need to think more about WHAT i'm eating. i eat many carbs and sweets. i really like that idea of a basic plan. thanks again for passing this along. hope you're doing well.<br /><br />Danielle Mari: that's funny. i've had many cats and i've always been in awe of their balance. then i had one cat named Gibson (i'm Mel, so we named the cat Gibson.) Gibson ate everything and anything, all the time. he'd eat till he was really sick, unless, of course, we regulated exactly what he got. i thought, "this really is MY cat". like me, he did not have that magic button.<br /><br />Abi: "Yay" and welcome back. i was just thinking about you right before you posted. i'm so glad you're writing again. i am doing pretty well. the hard part is being healthy, clean and sober AND coping. i'm learning. look forward to reading your blog!I Hate to Weighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-15681547695874301942009-05-31T09:33:56.093-07:002009-05-31T09:33:56.093-07:00*Waves hello!* Wow! It sounds like you've done bri...*Waves hello!* Wow! It sounds like you've done brilliantly these last few months :D this was a lovely post to find as I came back to my blog :DAbihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07842694982070697810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-22441816249585398542009-05-30T15:52:37.988-07:002009-05-30T15:52:37.988-07:00GREAT post! I'm right there with you on the searc...GREAT post! I'm right there with you on the search for balance. When I did Weight Watchers, I lost a bunch of weight and felt fantastic... though never completely satisfied with the number on the scale. Then one day I realized that although my weight was healthier, my head was not. WW allowed me to still be completely obsessed with food. Instead of seeing how much I could stuff in my face, I was busily counting, weighing, and fussing with my points. I just grew weary of that. And now I've gained it all back. But I DO feel less obsessed about it. I want the magic button where I don't have to obsess, but stay healthy! My freaking cat can do it! Why can't I!Danielle Filashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17559045917532735660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-79800008816170641462009-05-29T08:46:26.429-07:002009-05-29T08:46:26.429-07:00So here is what my nutritionist suggested as a way...So here is what my nutritionist suggested as a way of dealing with the "what should I eat" and "perfectionist thinking" that makes me want to plan out every meal. Have a BASIC plan. My plan is to make sure that I eat one source of carbohydrate, one source of protein, and one source of fat for every meal. And each snack that I have needs to have two of the three things. So, when I go to the pantry, I very quickly scan eveything in there, think about what would taste good together, and then quickly evaluate if I have those three components. That way I don't obsess about it and I still get everything in that I need to be healthy.Ameliahttp://www.losingsomethingelse.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-91545046579596995152009-05-28T22:10:27.406-07:002009-05-28T22:10:27.406-07:00I'm very happy you are taking this new healthy app...I'm very happy you are taking this new healthy approach to how you communicate with your boyfriend. As for the food issue, just eat healthy and don't restrict yourself out of a sense of guilt. You MUST nourish yourself, body and mind. An occasional treat is good for you, and shouldn't make you berate yourself. You deserve it!!! <br /><br />I'm proud of you. You are doing great, and I hope you are proud of yourself.Karen ^..^https://www.blogger.com/profile/05197114237324824217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-77683131102050333182009-05-27T10:21:26.421-07:002009-05-27T10:21:26.421-07:00linda: body and mind, health vs. physical appearan...linda: body and mind, health vs. physical appearance. when i was way too skinny (thinking i looked about right), i couldn't climb the subway stairs without getting dizzy and wobbly. when i berate myself for getting heavier, i remind myself that now the subways are a breeze. i love that you feel like you can run for miles.<br /><br />justjuliebean: thanks for writing! it sounds like you have a healthy approach to eating. not freaking it out is great. i don't love to be around food all that much (it can still make me nervour), so i don't get into cooking. i admire people who make healthy eating and cooking a part of their recovery. we'll see what time brings...and you're right, alcohol leads to poor food and other behavior, for me too!!!I Hate to Weighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-86196916047943673722009-05-27T09:41:42.661-07:002009-05-27T09:41:42.661-07:00I kind of mix all of your approaches. I do prefer...I kind of mix all of your approaches. I do prefer to enjoy my food, and if tastes truly awful, I won't eat it. Thus, I cook a lot, plan a lot, and make it as healthy as I can stand. However, I accept that I will sometimes be traveling, or at friends' houses, or a party, and will have to do the best I can, and I allow myself to indulge from time and time and don't freak out about it, and I'm finding my way okay. <br /><br />Not too much to say about alcohol, as I neither like the taste nor effect, but sometimes I drink it for social reasons, and it always leads to poor food and other behavior, at least for meAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-26119326532126336802009-05-26T04:03:04.884-07:002009-05-26T04:03:04.884-07:00I might eat the same thing every day for three wee...I might eat the same thing every day for three weeks (when I am anxious). Same for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Once I am off that downer phase I tend to stick to three small meals, three or four snacks each day. All healthy. I need structure with food or I get into a pattern of not eating much and it is bad for my head and my body.<br /><br />One rule I do have is that if I am not hungry, I don't eat. Otherwise I feel bloated and guilty - two things I just hate. <br /><br />There are no answers really. You just keep working at it. <br /><br />As for your weight and looking good (and being surprised). I have, over the past two years, put on 8kgs. I was underweight (5'9" and 120lbs) so needed to, but hate it (having once been fatty girl). However, everyone tells me I look great. I have to believe them. I feel like I can run for miles and really, that has to be a good thing. <br /><br />The ongoing battle between body and mind.lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392205573326695683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-37199434398036370572009-05-25T12:34:29.403-07:002009-05-25T12:34:29.403-07:00sarah; i'm with you. using food or alcohol only le...sarah; i'm with you. using food or alcohol only leads back to misery. it's really important for me to remember the outcome.<br /><br />and don't our EDs have LOUD voices?! mine started bugging me after lunch, "why'd you have potato salad? now, you're not entitled to a real dinner. you're gonna weigh 200 by mid-summer. better enjoy your figure now, 'cause it's not gonna last. waw, waw, waw, waw, waw."<br /><br />yikes. i just realized what i listen to all day. no wonder i'm anxious!!!!<br /><br />kim; thanks! you are right. there IS no right answer for everyone for always. figuring out what works today is really quite enough. truly, thank you so much. i get way ahead of myself. my attitude is positive. i'm going to have a real life, even though i often try to stand/get in my own way. it's a little exciting. <br /><br />Just Eat It! thank you for the support. it is great being sober. i really am (knock wood) finding it easier this time. it's something that is so right for me as plan this "having a real life". i agree with you -- starting with more planned meals feels a bit safer for now. maybe i won't freak myself out if i have more structure for now. lots to thinks about. i'm so glad for the help!I Hate to Weighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241064340434705588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-44207620787858061882009-05-25T07:27:41.238-07:002009-05-25T07:27:41.238-07:00Great job with being sober! I think it's a good pr...Great job with being sober! I think it's a good progression to go from planning meals to eating when you're hungry and stopping when you're full. That's kind of what I'm working on now.Just Eat It!https://www.blogger.com/profile/18063645003673364407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-12777683512685680582009-05-24T22:38:01.775-07:002009-05-24T22:38:01.775-07:00Congrats on the sobriety!! As far as eating, I thi...Congrats on the sobriety!! As far as eating, I think it's a big mystery for those of us who have dictated, rather than listened, to our bodies for years. I really liked the book "Making Peace with Food." It's a workbook, so it's pretty cool. "The Tao of Eating" is also good. They're both about learning to trust yourself again. It takes a while. Go easy on yourself. If you think you need thought-out meals, try that. I don't think there's any right way. You can feel out different things. I think your attitude is really positive right now, which is great!!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12524913753671188764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8381543043245692093.post-63738558035958277032009-05-24T20:31:42.317-07:002009-05-24T20:31:42.317-07:00I don't know if my advice would be helpful, since ...I don't know if my advice would be helpful, since Im in the midst of marking my food boundaries myself. Since I know I have binge/purge tendensies, and have been able to recognize new trigger food (even the "healthy" version of the food;like soy ice cream instead of regular, cause I don't do dairy) <br /><br />My ED definately used the gluten/dairy free junk foods to its advantage, creating tons of self sabatoge I never really saw I was doing to myself until now. (My ED voice says, "Well no, that's not fair, you should be able to have ice cream like 'normal' people, and look they make dairy free! It must be better for you, and it won't trigger you...I promise. *I eat the whole pint in a sitting and curse myself*)<br /><br />The second relapse came around slowly through this way, even though I did not purge I used food as a way to cope with emotions I chose to ignore. There always needs to be a check in with yourself, and when you have those urges to say, Hey, I'm just having a salad, you can have what you want-that feeling there is major relief and a sense of content with yourself, which is great. Same as with alcohol, knowing what surroundings/people are not helpful to your recovery, and seeing the bigger picture of that having alcohol will only lead you back to misery.<br /><br />I'm proud of you:)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17034980786297421545noreply@blogger.com